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Letterkenny consists of hicks, skids, hockey players and Christians. These are their problems. Canadian TV series. CHECK THE STICKIED POSTS FOR IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENTS.
2023.04.02 10:39 Southern_Repair_4416 Mongolian gas station w/ GS25
 | Shunkhlai gas station (15th branch) with GS25 convenience store. (Although the staff told me to use the š¾ outside, their sign says it's located inside) But the service is good submitted by Southern_Repair_4416 to MongoliaPics [link] [comments] |
2023.04.02 10:38 KittenDealinMama AITA for making my stepson sleep on the sleeper sofa in the living room?
Originally posted by u/trili19012 in AmItheAsshole on Mar 22, '23 updated on Mar 23, '23.
Trigger Warning: racism, homophobia
AITA for making my stepson sleep on the sleeper sofa in the living room? Mar 22, '23
I (33m) have 3 children (18m, 15f and 10m) from a previous relationship, my first wife died 8 years ago. My now wife (34f) has 3 children (14f, 13m and 11m) from her previous marriage. We started dating 7 years ago and married 5 years ago.
We are currently on vacation because my oldest has spring break from his freshman year of college, we are staying in our vacation home a few states away. Our vacation home only has 3 bedrooms, one for my wife and I, one for the boys and one for the girls.
The issue is there has been conflict between my 2 stepsons, Brecken (13) and Kurt (11). Brecken and Kurt have never gotten along according to my wife but itās gotten real bad lately and theyāre in family therapy for it. Brecken is a good kid, very sweet, heās definitely the most likely to challenge authority but not always in a bad way. Kurt is more quiet and obedient but heās had some issues with being nice to others.
The conflict started when my oldest was talking to Kurt and showing him his phone, Kurtās interests overlap a lot more with my son than Brecken, so they wanted to bond over vacation. The issue came when Kurt was showing my son some texts he sent his friends, this included some truly vile stuff including racism against Breckenās gf and mocking some of his baseball teammates.
Breckenās girlfriend is Black, the district we are in is over 90% white. Our family is white. The texts Kurt sent included the n word and were just awful. They also made fun of gay people, it was really bad. Kurt fully knows better than this, he has a high IQ, into some advanced topics like coding and trivia and has even been considered to be a possible grade skipper (heās in 5th now), but we havenāt bc we didnāt want to stunt social growth.
When we got out of the van, my son said he wanted to talk to me and showed my wife and I the texts. We called Kurt in and he didnāt show any remorse. He made a big deal out of us calling him in which led us to have to explain everything to all of the kids. Brecken, who almost always smiles was angrier then Iāve ever seen before.
Brecken told us he didnāt want to be near Kurt and locked him out of the room the boys are supposed to stay in.
My wife and I agreed that it was best that the 2 didnāt stay in the room together. The couch in the living room is a sleeper sofa, so we told Kurt he needed to sleep there to prevent fights.
We thought this was ok, obviously Kurt was mad at us but we were surprised when the girls started saying we were being ātoo hardā on Kurt and that we should just let him apologize to Brecken. Brecken said he wouldnāt accept an apology because āyou can hurt me, but you canāt hurt my girl or my boysā. We also thought forcing an apology was bad but the girls keep guilt tripping us. He slept on the sofa last night and was a real pain about it. AITA?
UPDATE: AITA for making my stepson sleep on the sleeper sofa in the living room? Mar 23, '23
After listening to comments and talking to my wifeās parents about what went down, we had my wifeās parents pick up Kurt. We talked to the girls about why they felt they should defend Kurt and explained to them how much his commentās hurt Brecken. They didnāt have much of a reaction to the talk we had, so weāre still trying to figure out how they feel.
Kurt has only been with my wifeās parents for a bit and weāre already hearing heās being very defiant but weāre not letting him back.
Like I mentioned, this vacation is during my oldestās spring break so weāre currently spending time with him.
Brecken was very happy when we told him Kurt would be picked up, though heās still very mad at Kurt and has said stuff like āheās not my brother anymoreā, which is definitely something weāre going to bring up therapists.
As for the comments mentioning finding anti-racism respected, my sister is an English teacher so weāre going to try to find some stuff she thinks is appropriate for 5th graders in terms of reading levels and what Kurt could comprehend.
Weāve also been speaking to the parents of the other boys he was texting and theyāre all horrified this was going on and said they plan to address it with their sons.
We also made sure that Brecken knew that we would always support him and his girlfriend and him and his baseball teammates.
Reminder, DO NOT comment on the original posts or contact the original poster. I am not the original poster. This is a repost.
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Trigger Warning: racism, homophobia
AITA for making my stepson sleep on the sleeper sofa in the living room? Mar 22, '23
I (33m) have 3 children (18m, 15f and 10m) from a previous relationship, my first wife died 8 years ago. My now wife (34f) has 3 children (14f, 13m and 11m) from her previous marriage. We started dating 7 years ago and married 5 years ago.
We are currently on vacation because my oldest has spring break from his freshman year of college, we are staying in our vacation home a few states away. Our vacation home only has 3 bedrooms, one for my wife and I, one for the boys and one for the girls.
The issue is there has been conflict between my 2 stepsons, Brecken (13) and Kurt (11). Brecken and Kurt have never gotten along according to my wife but itās gotten real bad lately and theyāre in family therapy for it. Brecken is a good kid, very sweet, heās definitely the most likely to challenge authority but not always in a bad way. Kurt is more quiet and obedient but heās had some issues with being nice to others.
The conflict started when my oldest was talking to Kurt and showing him his phone, Kurtās interests overlap a lot more with my son than Brecken, so they wanted to bond over vacation. The issue came when Kurt was showing my son some texts he sent his friends, this included some truly vile stuff including racism against Breckenās gf and mocking some of his baseball teammates.
Breckenās girlfriend is Black, the district we are in is over 90% white. Our family is white. The texts Kurt sent included the n word and were just awful. They also made fun of gay people, it was really bad. Kurt fully knows better than this, he has a high IQ, into some advanced topics like coding and trivia and has even been considered to be a possible grade skipper (heās in 5th now), but we havenāt bc we didnāt want to stunt social growth.
When we got out of the van, my son said he wanted to talk to me and showed my wife and I the texts. We called Kurt in and he didnāt show any remorse. He made a big deal out of us calling him in which led us to have to explain everything to all of the kids. Brecken, who almost always smiles was angrier then Iāve ever seen before.
Brecken told us he didnāt want to be near Kurt and locked him out of the room the boys are supposed to stay in.
My wife and I agreed that it was best that the 2 didnāt stay in the room together. The couch in the living room is a sleeper sofa, so we told Kurt he needed to sleep there to prevent fights.
We thought this was ok, obviously Kurt was mad at us but we were surprised when the girls started saying we were being ātoo hardā on Kurt and that we should just let him apologize to Brecken. Brecken said he wouldnāt accept an apology because āyou can hurt me, but you canāt hurt my girl or my boysā. We also thought forcing an apology was bad but the girls keep guilt tripping us. He slept on the sofa last night and was a real pain about it. AITA?
UPDATE: AITA for making my stepson sleep on the sleeper sofa in the living room? Mar 23, '23
After listening to comments and talking to my wifeās parents about what went down, we had my wifeās parents pick up Kurt. We talked to the girls about why they felt they should defend Kurt and explained to them how much his commentās hurt Brecken. They didnāt have much of a reaction to the talk we had, so weāre still trying to figure out how they feel.
Kurt has only been with my wifeās parents for a bit and weāre already hearing heās being very defiant but weāre not letting him back.
Like I mentioned, this vacation is during my oldestās spring break so weāre currently spending time with him.
Brecken was very happy when we told him Kurt would be picked up, though heās still very mad at Kurt and has said stuff like āheās not my brother anymoreā, which is definitely something weāre going to bring up therapists.
As for the comments mentioning finding anti-racism respected, my sister is an English teacher so weāre going to try to find some stuff she thinks is appropriate for 5th graders in terms of reading levels and what Kurt could comprehend.
Weāve also been speaking to the parents of the other boys he was texting and theyāre all horrified this was going on and said they plan to address it with their sons.
We also made sure that Brecken knew that we would always support him and his girlfriend and him and his baseball teammates.
Reminder, DO NOT comment on the original posts or contact the original poster. I am not the original poster. This is a repost.
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2023.04.02 10:37 Bron147 This has been my mental state and I don't know what happen to me I need help.
I have this ungodly feeling this urge, it only flares up massively when certain things are mentioned.
So recently my girlfriend referred herself in her own group of friends as the poor girl ( were not poor) and we both have decent jobs making a combone total of 100k a year and growing, but for some reason when I heard this, something in me just broke and I feel this ungodly urge to be better then them, to the point where they can't even be in the same tax bracket not just in that but in fitness I dropped 15lb and upped my weights I put more effort in my job to earn more ( I work with commission based ) which I have successfully did boosting my income to near double but for some reason all I can think is I want more I want them to personally understand that we are better then them and in reality I want them to understand that I am better that nothing they do will ever surpass me that I will be the top dog the absolute best. And it's only started after this comment was made a while ago and it's only toward them personally my brother ( not my real brother but my best friend) he is the only guy that I try to be as good as him and have genuine respect and I look up to him. What is happening to me.
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So recently my girlfriend referred herself in her own group of friends as the poor girl ( were not poor) and we both have decent jobs making a combone total of 100k a year and growing, but for some reason when I heard this, something in me just broke and I feel this ungodly urge to be better then them, to the point where they can't even be in the same tax bracket not just in that but in fitness I dropped 15lb and upped my weights I put more effort in my job to earn more ( I work with commission based ) which I have successfully did boosting my income to near double but for some reason all I can think is I want more I want them to personally understand that we are better then them and in reality I want them to understand that I am better that nothing they do will ever surpass me that I will be the top dog the absolute best. And it's only started after this comment was made a while ago and it's only toward them personally my brother ( not my real brother but my best friend) he is the only guy that I try to be as good as him and have genuine respect and I look up to him. What is happening to me.
2023.04.02 10:37 xmeshu How to be a PvE player only?
So, yesterday my town was burned (500k T4 troops -> 40k T4; 200mil of every res -> 0) because of my lack of performance in KvK. Yeah, I didn't participate because I'm not interested in PvP at all, other than Champions of Olympia, etc. Is it even possible to play this game PvE only? I've been doing it for nearly 1 year with no problem, but now it seems it's not that clear as I lost most of what I gathered during this time.
I saw many posts with "dead weight" attitude comments but some people like me really like the game for the design and lore, but i. e. are working full-time and having families to spend time with, so really doing dailies and a bit extra is maximum we have...
Any tips?
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I saw many posts with "dead weight" attitude comments but some people like me really like the game for the design and lore, but i. e. are working full-time and having families to spend time with, so really doing dailies and a bit extra is maximum we have...
Any tips?
2023.04.02 10:34 Hatbatchez yo it took me like a year but i finally made my first game and uploaded it to the microsoft store
its called dimdis: Dimensional Destruction which is like a really bad name but its the best i could come up with, I like hand drew most of the characters and learned to code (somewhat) for this. it took me a while but im content with the end result, id really appreciate it if yall could check it out tysm.
https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/p/dimdis-dimensional-destruction/9nkw4hwrw4bp?activetab=pivot:overviewtab
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2023.04.02 10:33 ShivchanGameium Location of Upload Base64 Image
TLDR: can't find where https://stablediffusionapi.com/docs/features/miscs/upload-base65 is uploading images, need the image URL.
Hey guys, I am not a backend developer I don't know how to upload an image for init_image and mask image hence I was searching for API that can upload my image and give me a URL to upload for images, I stumbled upon API https://stablediffusionapi.com/docs/features/miscs/upload-base65 to upload images but I am not able to figure out where is it storing these images or how can I access these images or get their URL as the response only tells you if the image has been successfully uploaded or not.
Thanks in advance
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Hey guys, I am not a backend developer I don't know how to upload an image for init_image and mask image hence I was searching for API that can upload my image and give me a URL to upload for images, I stumbled upon API https://stablediffusionapi.com/docs/features/miscs/upload-base65 to upload images but I am not able to figure out where is it storing these images or how can I access these images or get their URL as the response only tells you if the image has been successfully uploaded or not.
Thanks in advance
2023.04.02 10:33 audiophile__ 26 [F4F] Eyes locked, hands locked
So tired with all these situationship or no-label relationships. I'm looking for something serious. Di na tayo bata chz haha
About me: I'm 26 chinita. Wears glasses and short haired. Femme but not too much, saks lang. Working professional. I live near disu. Chubby but I'm trying to lose weight na (samahan mo ko mag gym pls haha) let's talk on tg if u want to know me more
About you: 26-30. Not choosy sa looks but i want someone who's feminine. Working professional din sana. Single pls ayoko maging kabit chz. Manila area. Someone who won't ghost me š
Hmu on my dm š«°š»
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About me: I'm 26 chinita. Wears glasses and short haired. Femme but not too much, saks lang. Working professional. I live near disu. Chubby but I'm trying to lose weight na (samahan mo ko mag gym pls haha) let's talk on tg if u want to know me more
About you: 26-30. Not choosy sa looks but i want someone who's feminine. Working professional din sana. Single pls ayoko maging kabit chz. Manila area. Someone who won't ghost me š
Hmu on my dm š«°š»
2023.04.02 10:33 sepandee Size of unboxed, disassembled nanit pro + old floor stand
We have the older nanit camera and want to get another one. The UK and Canadian nanit stores have shut down, so my only option is buying it from nanit.com (they have a sale on the older floor stands, the tripod version) and asking a friend in the US to ship it to me to Europe.
But if shipped as is in the box it comes in, it'll be ver expensive. Defeats the whole. Purpose of the sale.
So, if someone has this set, would they mind disassembling it, putting all the pieces tightly nzt to one another, taking a picture and sharing it with me? And maybe putting a measuring tape or something as a size reference.
Would appreciate it. Thank you.
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But if shipped as is in the box it comes in, it'll be ver expensive. Defeats the whole. Purpose of the sale.
So, if someone has this set, would they mind disassembling it, putting all the pieces tightly nzt to one another, taking a picture and sharing it with me? And maybe putting a measuring tape or something as a size reference.
Would appreciate it. Thank you.
2023.04.02 10:32 MyAltGotSuspended My upbringing has landed me in a tough spot
I (17) was raised in a very conservative household; I'm talking no revealing clothing, we weren't allowed to read Harry Potter, church every second Sunday; your perfect nuclear family.
Come 9th grade, I started to struggle with my mental health (that's a whole other post for another day), but I also started to gain a little more freedom. I started liking boys, wearing makeup, staying out late, that sort of thing.
We never did sex ed at my school, never had "the talk" at home, none of that. I learnt about sex and what surrounds it from Google and some close friends who had the patience to answer my endless questions.
I started meeting up with this group of kids around my age, and as part of a game of truth or dare, I had to kiss one of them. That one kiss turned into weeks of fooling around (kissing, mostly), but after a while i started getting very anxious because he kept telling me he would "expose me" to my sister, so I cut things off and we went back to just being friends.
I got a job near the end of last year, and I had this coworker who was hitting on me from the get-go. He assumed we were the same age (he's 19), and one day while we were both upstairs clocking on for work he initiated a kiss; which became a couple weeks of mucking around, sneaking around at work to get a kiss in wherever we could, that sort of thing.
I ended up breaking things off because my mental health condition declined so badly so quickly that anything remotely like a relationship would just be damaging, and yesterday he messaged me saying "it hurts to look at you," "i cant work beside you anymore," things like that. He's got the right to feel his feelings, I don't want to take that from him, but we had agreed it would be purely a FWB type of agreement, but I'm guessing he developed deeper feelings.
I'm not sure what to do, this sort of thing is all new to me and I just needed to get it all off my chest.
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Come 9th grade, I started to struggle with my mental health (that's a whole other post for another day), but I also started to gain a little more freedom. I started liking boys, wearing makeup, staying out late, that sort of thing.
We never did sex ed at my school, never had "the talk" at home, none of that. I learnt about sex and what surrounds it from Google and some close friends who had the patience to answer my endless questions.
I started meeting up with this group of kids around my age, and as part of a game of truth or dare, I had to kiss one of them. That one kiss turned into weeks of fooling around (kissing, mostly), but after a while i started getting very anxious because he kept telling me he would "expose me" to my sister, so I cut things off and we went back to just being friends.
I got a job near the end of last year, and I had this coworker who was hitting on me from the get-go. He assumed we were the same age (he's 19), and one day while we were both upstairs clocking on for work he initiated a kiss; which became a couple weeks of mucking around, sneaking around at work to get a kiss in wherever we could, that sort of thing.
I ended up breaking things off because my mental health condition declined so badly so quickly that anything remotely like a relationship would just be damaging, and yesterday he messaged me saying "it hurts to look at you," "i cant work beside you anymore," things like that. He's got the right to feel his feelings, I don't want to take that from him, but we had agreed it would be purely a FWB type of agreement, but I'm guessing he developed deeper feelings.
I'm not sure what to do, this sort of thing is all new to me and I just needed to get it all off my chest.
2023.04.02 10:32 a_bit_too_lazy i think my budgie has a problem and im worried about it
i had a budgie for 4 years. i love him a lot. i worry about him everytime. but i dont know if he loves me. not that i care but im starting to think he is scared of me. he kind of trembles with fear. but not that obviously only a little. and he bites me when i try to get near doesnt let me touch him screams sometimes. and i just want to give him the best life. yes i also make mistakes such as leaving him home alone sometimes but thats the best i can do. what should i do? is it too late?
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2023.04.02 10:31 IndependentNo9223 Need Advice: My Wife's Alcoholism is bad and idk what to do...
Summary:
I don't know what to do about my wife's alcoholism anymore. It's reached a serious tipping point. She's amazing but has mental disorders that are comorbid with her alcoholism. She will get me near the tipping point, fix things, do it again, and cycle. I am also afraid she will harm herself or me if I left. I don't know what to do anymore.
An Apology:
Before I even start, I'm really sorry that I'm bothering everyone because I feel like I should know what to do and not be going back and forth like I've been doing. But, I'm online asking a bunch of strangers for advice (probably because I'm too much of a piece of shit to just man up and do what needs doing).
So, I'm genuinely really sorry. I just feel embarrassed.
My Wife:
One of the smartest, sweetest, amazing women I've ever met. She really is and has been my best friend for nearly 8 years. We do everything together from gaming, books, travel, and she even supports my dream of becoming a writer. We got married about 9 months ago.
I can honestly, without reservation or doubt, say that I love her with all my heart.
She is in the middle of getting a career in medicine.
She has a history of mental issues (primarily bipolar), and I highly suspect she has 1+ untreated neurological issues that result in her struggling with attention, some memory, and other minor things. Because of recent events with work, she is being forced to deal with them.
Me:
I'm a writer and work to make real money. I have moved around to help her get her career off the ground and be a good husband. I'm not perfect, but I really try. I have no money. I have a family in the state.
History:
She has had substance abuse problems with on and off throughout her life since she was a teenager. She stopped the hardcore substances around the time I met her and has cleaned up her act substantially. When I met her, I didn't see too much of a problem because I had only seen her in small doses or in social situations.
The deeper into our relationship we got, the worse the issue became. Whenever she'd drink, she became a different person. Whereas she was normally calm, collected, and reasonably friendly when she was sober, she transformed into this raging party animal when she was drunk. It was like she never wanted the party to end and lost all ability to "read the room." Alongside her sudden change of behavior, we would always, without fail, get into a fight. Usually, it was because I was the voice of reason (e.g., "don't go out to 8 more bars and go dancing all night when you have work in the morning," "you probably should lower your voice because you're literally yelling right next to someone," "why are you going in and out of the house and slamming all the doors for the millionth time to yell on the phone at 1 am?", etc.).
For the first few years, I let it go. Every time I confronted her, she told me she would stop (and still do). After the first times, she started sneaking alcohol. She would buy handles, drink them in secret, and leave the empties in her bag/draweetc. like her father used to. I would find them (usually by accident) and she would turn it around on me with accusations that I shouldn't be going through her things.
As time has gone on, the alcoholism stabilized for a while until about 2 years ago. Honestly, I think I still partially blame myself for her deep dive into drinking near the end. I went off to be in law enforcement in another state because we were talking about setting up a life there for when she left medical school. There was no work where we were. So, we both agreed that I go ahead, set everything up, get established, and she would follow in X months. We both agreed on the plan, but she couldn't handle the loneliness. So, she started hanging out with our alcoholic, piece-of-shit, useless neighbor, who I suspect got her back into drinking. Obviously, our plans blew up in my face.
Every time she drinks, we fight over stupid shit. She has driven drunk, spent ridiculous amounts of money (separate bank accounts) on drinking in private, won't tell me when I ask (and know) if she's been drinking. In our most recent fight, she tried to sit in my lap while we were fighting over her insulting my mother. After telling her no, she decided she would try to force her way there. I moved to stop her by putting my hand out (not aggressively. Just stick it out to stop her). She got angry because she said I was pushing her. So, she reacted by trying to choke me, to which I had to physically restrain her (non-violently) to de-escalate the situation. When she calmed down, I immediately let her go and backed off.
This isnāt the first time sheās hit me during a fight. She punched me in the arm two times before. I have never once raised a fist, hit her, or threatened to do so.
She has rejected professional help because she doesn't want it to get out and affect her professional status.
Now:
Since then, she has apologized profusely and claims she can't remember the situation. She has been doing a lot of nice, small things for me to show me she's "trying." She is about to join intensive therapy to go over her medication and other issues. However, I don't think alcoholism is among it. She's fine for now, but I don't know. Every single time she does well for a while and I start to trust her, she screws up and goes back to being in the doghouse. Lately, she's been stressed out because of work, giving up drinking (again), and so forth.
Honestly, I'm feeling fairly shocked, disgusted, and shattered over recent events. I haven't been happy even half the time for the last few years. Everything is just tinged with either stress or sadness. I'm tired of the apologies and being sad.
Problem:
I don't know that I want to stay anymore. The good times are some of the f***ing best times. She is sweet, funny, and amazing. She is getting adjacent help. I love her. However, I don't see the good side very often. Instead, I see the monster, who is spiteful, inconsiderate, and selfish. And, I'm tired of being close to leaving, having her fix it, have it get better, and just continue that cycle endlessly.
But I keep going back and forth on it. I can't seem to decide, even though this is depressing me. I feel trapped because I'm unhappy, but I don't want to abandon someone that needs help so badly. Also, I fear she would:
A) stab me to death if I try to leave,
B) commit suicide if I try,
C) delve straight into her habits and ruin her life
D) become so depressed that her life will crumble.
Her mother is a divorce lawyer with a protective streak for her daughter. I fear that she'll try to blame me or make my life worse if I leave.
Any thoughts? Advice? Anything? Am I an asshole?
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I don't know what to do about my wife's alcoholism anymore. It's reached a serious tipping point. She's amazing but has mental disorders that are comorbid with her alcoholism. She will get me near the tipping point, fix things, do it again, and cycle. I am also afraid she will harm herself or me if I left. I don't know what to do anymore.
An Apology:
Before I even start, I'm really sorry that I'm bothering everyone because I feel like I should know what to do and not be going back and forth like I've been doing. But, I'm online asking a bunch of strangers for advice (probably because I'm too much of a piece of shit to just man up and do what needs doing).
So, I'm genuinely really sorry. I just feel embarrassed.
My Wife:
One of the smartest, sweetest, amazing women I've ever met. She really is and has been my best friend for nearly 8 years. We do everything together from gaming, books, travel, and she even supports my dream of becoming a writer. We got married about 9 months ago.
I can honestly, without reservation or doubt, say that I love her with all my heart.
She is in the middle of getting a career in medicine.
She has a history of mental issues (primarily bipolar), and I highly suspect she has 1+ untreated neurological issues that result in her struggling with attention, some memory, and other minor things. Because of recent events with work, she is being forced to deal with them.
Me:
I'm a writer and work to make real money. I have moved around to help her get her career off the ground and be a good husband. I'm not perfect, but I really try. I have no money. I have a family in the state.
History:
She has had substance abuse problems with on and off throughout her life since she was a teenager. She stopped the hardcore substances around the time I met her and has cleaned up her act substantially. When I met her, I didn't see too much of a problem because I had only seen her in small doses or in social situations.
The deeper into our relationship we got, the worse the issue became. Whenever she'd drink, she became a different person. Whereas she was normally calm, collected, and reasonably friendly when she was sober, she transformed into this raging party animal when she was drunk. It was like she never wanted the party to end and lost all ability to "read the room." Alongside her sudden change of behavior, we would always, without fail, get into a fight. Usually, it was because I was the voice of reason (e.g., "don't go out to 8 more bars and go dancing all night when you have work in the morning," "you probably should lower your voice because you're literally yelling right next to someone," "why are you going in and out of the house and slamming all the doors for the millionth time to yell on the phone at 1 am?", etc.).
For the first few years, I let it go. Every time I confronted her, she told me she would stop (and still do). After the first times, she started sneaking alcohol. She would buy handles, drink them in secret, and leave the empties in her bag/draweetc. like her father used to. I would find them (usually by accident) and she would turn it around on me with accusations that I shouldn't be going through her things.
As time has gone on, the alcoholism stabilized for a while until about 2 years ago. Honestly, I think I still partially blame myself for her deep dive into drinking near the end. I went off to be in law enforcement in another state because we were talking about setting up a life there for when she left medical school. There was no work where we were. So, we both agreed that I go ahead, set everything up, get established, and she would follow in X months. We both agreed on the plan, but she couldn't handle the loneliness. So, she started hanging out with our alcoholic, piece-of-shit, useless neighbor, who I suspect got her back into drinking. Obviously, our plans blew up in my face.
Every time she drinks, we fight over stupid shit. She has driven drunk, spent ridiculous amounts of money (separate bank accounts) on drinking in private, won't tell me when I ask (and know) if she's been drinking. In our most recent fight, she tried to sit in my lap while we were fighting over her insulting my mother. After telling her no, she decided she would try to force her way there. I moved to stop her by putting my hand out (not aggressively. Just stick it out to stop her). She got angry because she said I was pushing her. So, she reacted by trying to choke me, to which I had to physically restrain her (non-violently) to de-escalate the situation. When she calmed down, I immediately let her go and backed off.
This isnāt the first time sheās hit me during a fight. She punched me in the arm two times before. I have never once raised a fist, hit her, or threatened to do so.
She has rejected professional help because she doesn't want it to get out and affect her professional status.
Now:
Since then, she has apologized profusely and claims she can't remember the situation. She has been doing a lot of nice, small things for me to show me she's "trying." She is about to join intensive therapy to go over her medication and other issues. However, I don't think alcoholism is among it. She's fine for now, but I don't know. Every single time she does well for a while and I start to trust her, she screws up and goes back to being in the doghouse. Lately, she's been stressed out because of work, giving up drinking (again), and so forth.
Honestly, I'm feeling fairly shocked, disgusted, and shattered over recent events. I haven't been happy even half the time for the last few years. Everything is just tinged with either stress or sadness. I'm tired of the apologies and being sad.
Problem:
I don't know that I want to stay anymore. The good times are some of the f***ing best times. She is sweet, funny, and amazing. She is getting adjacent help. I love her. However, I don't see the good side very often. Instead, I see the monster, who is spiteful, inconsiderate, and selfish. And, I'm tired of being close to leaving, having her fix it, have it get better, and just continue that cycle endlessly.
But I keep going back and forth on it. I can't seem to decide, even though this is depressing me. I feel trapped because I'm unhappy, but I don't want to abandon someone that needs help so badly. Also, I fear she would:
A) stab me to death if I try to leave,
B) commit suicide if I try,
C) delve straight into her habits and ruin her life
D) become so depressed that her life will crumble.
Her mother is a divorce lawyer with a protective streak for her daughter. I fear that she'll try to blame me or make my life worse if I leave.
Any thoughts? Advice? Anything? Am I an asshole?
2023.04.02 10:31 leoblack9 Parents insist me to continue the family business and their other ventures and it's hard to say no
I'm already in my 30s, finished from a decent university with a degree under fine arts. I've never had a corporate job since I worked freelance (video/film industry) ever since graduating a decade ago. Creative work has been scarce since pandemic and I've realized that it might be a dead-end for me and started considering a career shift.. data analytics? Maybe but I'm still exploring new options.
The caveat is that I've invested a lot time and energy being the assistant of my parents in their business and real estate investments (being a very obedient child) for several years now. I'm not at all happy about but I did it because I had a lot of free time when I had no projects. I've brought up my dissatisfaction with parents about current track and insisted that I wanted to carve my own path in my life.
Their response has been lukewarm--reluctant to let me go my own way since what they've built is a sure path for security and suggest that I do both. But I am not a business person at all. I'm a creative, I like working in the field, working hands-on... but since pandemic I've been struggling to find jobs/projects and they've decided for me that I should continue the family business.
There's no one else left to inherit the business. My older sibling was in the same predicament but still rebelled against their wishes and took a bootcamp.. now he is now a successful software dev abroad. I am envious and sad because of course I can leave everything and still do what I want but my parents are already old (nearing 60s) and they've expressed that nobody else should continue what they're doing but me. I feel trapped and I am sad and frustrated..
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The caveat is that I've invested a lot time and energy being the assistant of my parents in their business and real estate investments (being a very obedient child) for several years now. I'm not at all happy about but I did it because I had a lot of free time when I had no projects. I've brought up my dissatisfaction with parents about current track and insisted that I wanted to carve my own path in my life.
Their response has been lukewarm--reluctant to let me go my own way since what they've built is a sure path for security and suggest that I do both. But I am not a business person at all. I'm a creative, I like working in the field, working hands-on... but since pandemic I've been struggling to find jobs/projects and they've decided for me that I should continue the family business.
There's no one else left to inherit the business. My older sibling was in the same predicament but still rebelled against their wishes and took a bootcamp.. now he is now a successful software dev abroad. I am envious and sad because of course I can leave everything and still do what I want but my parents are already old (nearing 60s) and they've expressed that nobody else should continue what they're doing but me. I feel trapped and I am sad and frustrated..
2023.04.02 10:31 NicktheRockNerd Are POE builds really that diverse?
So in lieu of the patch notes and the discussion about them I wanted to raise a question. All cry out because of dying build diversity and I have the same feeling. But I don't think it has to do with missing melee and archmage changes (Don't get me wrong please buff both archetypes). I think the cause lies in something different.
I've been playing POE since heist and have roughly 1200 hours in it. So far, nearly all builds I played felt samey in the end. Yea the scaling worked differently often and obsessing hours over POB was super fun, but in the end the actual gameplay did not differ much.
You have one or two curses, you use auras and spam one main skill. You need a guard skill to survive in maps and a movement skill to be faster. On elemental builds you want a source of exposure and so on. So in the end you are doing the same thing on nearly every build because it is optimal. You blast through your map spamming your keybinding for your movement skill of choice, while hammering on your main skill to clear screens of monsters and if a tough rare shows up you curse it before hammering on aforementioned main skill.
Yes the thing blowing monsters up might look different, but in the end it is mostly the same gameplay loop and it doesn't matter what you play.
There was however one exception. I played an arc archmage build briefly and here the gameplay loop differed. I had no auras, and while I was using a guard skill, it mostly helped with damage on tough bosses. I also had to put down sigil of power, which feels amazing. Spending mana and charging that huge rune on the ground.
I think POE needs more stuff like this. Make it possible to not use curses, but get that damage bonus in other ways. Make it possible to not run auras. Make the gameplay feel a lot more different on other archetypes.
Why does melee has to use curses like a spellcaster? Why do I have to shield charge on my caster build? I think things like the 15% increased life if your body armour doesn't have a life modifier is a step in the right direction. Introduce passives that let you deal more damage on uncursed uniques. Bring Mana builds back. And yeah maybe casters should not be able to move with lightning speed through a map while shield charging. This would close the clearing speed gap to melee.
TLDR: I know I oversimplified a bit here and there but I think while scaling works widely different in POE the overall gameplay loop is generic. All characters do the same few optimal things to map fast and do damage. Please change that.
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I've been playing POE since heist and have roughly 1200 hours in it. So far, nearly all builds I played felt samey in the end. Yea the scaling worked differently often and obsessing hours over POB was super fun, but in the end the actual gameplay did not differ much.
You have one or two curses, you use auras and spam one main skill. You need a guard skill to survive in maps and a movement skill to be faster. On elemental builds you want a source of exposure and so on. So in the end you are doing the same thing on nearly every build because it is optimal. You blast through your map spamming your keybinding for your movement skill of choice, while hammering on your main skill to clear screens of monsters and if a tough rare shows up you curse it before hammering on aforementioned main skill.
Yes the thing blowing monsters up might look different, but in the end it is mostly the same gameplay loop and it doesn't matter what you play.
There was however one exception. I played an arc archmage build briefly and here the gameplay loop differed. I had no auras, and while I was using a guard skill, it mostly helped with damage on tough bosses. I also had to put down sigil of power, which feels amazing. Spending mana and charging that huge rune on the ground.
I think POE needs more stuff like this. Make it possible to not use curses, but get that damage bonus in other ways. Make it possible to not run auras. Make the gameplay feel a lot more different on other archetypes.
Why does melee has to use curses like a spellcaster? Why do I have to shield charge on my caster build? I think things like the 15% increased life if your body armour doesn't have a life modifier is a step in the right direction. Introduce passives that let you deal more damage on uncursed uniques. Bring Mana builds back. And yeah maybe casters should not be able to move with lightning speed through a map while shield charging. This would close the clearing speed gap to melee.
TLDR: I know I oversimplified a bit here and there but I think while scaling works widely different in POE the overall gameplay loop is generic. All characters do the same few optimal things to map fast and do damage. Please change that.
2023.04.02 10:31 weird_weekend Help on making mascara look more even šļø
 | In the last few years the difference in my eyes has increased. The right (left in pic) is nearly hooded while the left (right in pic) is not. Honestly, I prefer the hooded one! I donāt wear eye makeup other than mascara. Maybe Iāll add a little shimmery eye pencil for a night out, but Iāve never been able to apply eyeshadow or eyeliner myself. How can I get the flow of my mascara more similar? I like how on the hooded eye the mascara fans out vs the other eye where it just kind of lifts. Iām working on accepting the difference because at the end of the day itās not a huge deal, but may consider eyelid surgery if it continues as I age (Iām 33). I get Botox and my injector tried lifting the hooded eye a bit but the results were minor and temporary. It bothers me more in pictures than it does in person. If this isnāt clear, happy to answer questions! submitted by weird_weekend to HoodedEyes [link] [comments] |
2023.04.02 10:31 AnyFei Comfortable wireless headphones - 200$
I am looking for a comfortable wireless headphones that will be used for work/gaming. Right know I am using SPC Gear Viro Plus and sound quality and mic quality are perfectly fine for me. I am looking for something more comfy and wireless. What I need: * Something really comfortable. Viro are fine, but after multiple hours my ears start to hurt. * Easily switchable between devices. I will need to reconnect them between two laptops daily. * Initially I was thinking about something that also has a decent microphone, but now I am also considering an external mic. * Type isnāt that important. Can be over ear, can be earbuds.
My budget is 200$ for a model with built-in mic and 150$ if there is something nice but without a mic.
Right now I am leaning towards Logitech Pro X. Some friends recommend it to me. I went to a store to try them out and they seemed pretty ok.
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My budget is 200$ for a model with built-in mic and 150$ if there is something nice but without a mic.
Right now I am leaning towards Logitech Pro X. Some friends recommend it to me. I went to a store to try them out and they seemed pretty ok.
2023.04.02 10:30 Amecrose Just finished my first playthrough of DBH!
And I really loved it. I would like to share some of my favorite moments in the game, and personal opinions on them. (My english may not be good, it's not my first language.)
In my first playthrough, I let Connor remain android and not deviant ("evil" Connor route?), made Markus lead a pacifist rebellion (that turned violent oops), and successfully got Kara, Alice and Luther to Canada.
- The opening
It got me interested in the game right away, Connor's mission was interesting, Markus's story showed the city in such a realistic way that it felt like I was really there - and the intro with Kara was very beautiful.
- The artist's son though. Very disrespectful. I'm glad I didn't see him again in the playthrough.
- The game's style being very realistic
I really like how the characters would have such realistic expressions, and how they'd have raindrops on their face when it rained, or snow when it snowed. Even the way your character turns when you walk close to another - loved it. I don't play such realistic games often.
- Connor's story
I really liked it - it was funny at times, but serious too. I liked figuring out what had happened at the crime scene. While I played the "evil" connor route, I really liked the scene where he met Markus, another android like him, but a "Deviant". Since Connor remained android, he did not see him as a living being, that felt and thought, that had a dream or a cause; he just saw a Deviant he had to dispose of. It was very interesting.
Amanda was not nice though. I did my best and she just replaced Connor :(
- Kara and Alice
"These two really can't get a break" is the first thing I thought. As soon as they found some peace, things got difficult once again; going around without shelter, the police on their tail, Zlatko and even the amusement park in the snow (those androids gave me a heart attack).
I really felt like a mother that just wanted Alice to be warm, dry and safe somewhere, so I could finally be at peace as well. Luther was so sweet too, it was very nice.
In the final chapter, I couldn't bring myself to sacrifice him - though I did feel bad about asking Jerry to do that instead. Such a hard decision, right when everything seemed to be going well for once...
- Markus being down in the dumps
...please excuse my poor attempt at a joke. Anyway, that was a great chapter. It felt very realistic, with the way Markus was crawling and looking for decent body parts to use for himself - and then climbing the wall of garbage to get out... and the close-up, with the way the rain fell, Markus's new heterochromia and the way he walked away with the jacket. Very cool and immersive.
- Quick decisions
I had to memorize the keys and buttons to press fast! I thought I knew them, but the fighting scenes made me take back that thought. Had to act fast and think fast. This game also made me realize I'm really bad at making decisions.
- Kamski's test
I expected something like that since the moment Kamski started speaking to Connor, but that didn't make it any less interesting. As I was going for the "Connor remains machine, not deviant" route, I decided to shoot Chloe (was this her name? I forgot): I needed those answers from Kamski after all. That being said, I half-expected the menu lady to get mad at me when I finished my playthrough that day lol
- Night of the Soul chapter
The moment I saw the house's atmosphere, the gun, and especially Hank's dog being sad, I had a feeling something bad was going to happen; and yet it was still so sudden, and the scene was incredibly well made. The dog barking after the shot made me feel guilty :(
- The chapter where Connor was aiming at Markus from the top of the building, but the cops interrupted him, and Connor looking like "I'm so done with humans"
- Markus' final fight and North's death
Because as I said, I did not do very well with pressing the right buttons fast. During the fight I was doing pretty well, I had teammates covering me and I was advancing. I fought off some soldiers, and after a bit of button mashing, everything seemed to be peaceful... until a drone suddenly appeared. I was not quick enough, and in a second, North was dead.
I'm used to slow deaths in games, like characters bleeding out or similar; I don't play many games with guns and such. For this reason, seeing North just be shot and die in a matter of seconds was shocking; I didn't even like her that much, but she had a bond with Markus, and I felt guilty, as if it was my fault he had lost his lover. Nearly made me cry - one of the most well-made scenes I've ever seen.
- The menu lady left :( do I get another one? It was nice to have my menu talk to me... though when she started looking around with that worried expression I thought my game was broken.
- The menu lady going "oh your save file is corrupted! ...hehe it was a joke."
Nevermind. I do not in fact miss her.
That's all I have in mind, honestly the game was so good I'm still feeling the excitement and all the emotions it gave me. I can't wait to play it again and see how the next playthrough goes!
Have a nice day, and if you read this far, thank you :D
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In my first playthrough, I let Connor remain android and not deviant ("evil" Connor route?), made Markus lead a pacifist rebellion (that turned violent oops), and successfully got Kara, Alice and Luther to Canada.
- The opening
It got me interested in the game right away, Connor's mission was interesting, Markus's story showed the city in such a realistic way that it felt like I was really there - and the intro with Kara was very beautiful.
- The artist's son though. Very disrespectful. I'm glad I didn't see him again in the playthrough.
- The game's style being very realistic
I really like how the characters would have such realistic expressions, and how they'd have raindrops on their face when it rained, or snow when it snowed. Even the way your character turns when you walk close to another - loved it. I don't play such realistic games often.
- Connor's story
I really liked it - it was funny at times, but serious too. I liked figuring out what had happened at the crime scene. While I played the "evil" connor route, I really liked the scene where he met Markus, another android like him, but a "Deviant". Since Connor remained android, he did not see him as a living being, that felt and thought, that had a dream or a cause; he just saw a Deviant he had to dispose of. It was very interesting.
Amanda was not nice though. I did my best and she just replaced Connor :(
- Kara and Alice
"These two really can't get a break" is the first thing I thought. As soon as they found some peace, things got difficult once again; going around without shelter, the police on their tail, Zlatko and even the amusement park in the snow (those androids gave me a heart attack).
I really felt like a mother that just wanted Alice to be warm, dry and safe somewhere, so I could finally be at peace as well. Luther was so sweet too, it was very nice.
In the final chapter, I couldn't bring myself to sacrifice him - though I did feel bad about asking Jerry to do that instead. Such a hard decision, right when everything seemed to be going well for once...
- Markus being down in the dumps
...please excuse my poor attempt at a joke. Anyway, that was a great chapter. It felt very realistic, with the way Markus was crawling and looking for decent body parts to use for himself - and then climbing the wall of garbage to get out... and the close-up, with the way the rain fell, Markus's new heterochromia and the way he walked away with the jacket. Very cool and immersive.
- Quick decisions
I had to memorize the keys and buttons to press fast! I thought I knew them, but the fighting scenes made me take back that thought. Had to act fast and think fast. This game also made me realize I'm really bad at making decisions.
- Kamski's test
I expected something like that since the moment Kamski started speaking to Connor, but that didn't make it any less interesting. As I was going for the "Connor remains machine, not deviant" route, I decided to shoot Chloe (was this her name? I forgot): I needed those answers from Kamski after all. That being said, I half-expected the menu lady to get mad at me when I finished my playthrough that day lol
- Night of the Soul chapter
The moment I saw the house's atmosphere, the gun, and especially Hank's dog being sad, I had a feeling something bad was going to happen; and yet it was still so sudden, and the scene was incredibly well made. The dog barking after the shot made me feel guilty :(
- The chapter where Connor was aiming at Markus from the top of the building, but the cops interrupted him, and Connor looking like "I'm so done with humans"
- Markus' final fight and North's death
Because as I said, I did not do very well with pressing the right buttons fast. During the fight I was doing pretty well, I had teammates covering me and I was advancing. I fought off some soldiers, and after a bit of button mashing, everything seemed to be peaceful... until a drone suddenly appeared. I was not quick enough, and in a second, North was dead.
I'm used to slow deaths in games, like characters bleeding out or similar; I don't play many games with guns and such. For this reason, seeing North just be shot and die in a matter of seconds was shocking; I didn't even like her that much, but she had a bond with Markus, and I felt guilty, as if it was my fault he had lost his lover. Nearly made me cry - one of the most well-made scenes I've ever seen.
- The menu lady left :( do I get another one? It was nice to have my menu talk to me... though when she started looking around with that worried expression I thought my game was broken.
- The menu lady going "oh your save file is corrupted! ...hehe it was a joke."
Nevermind. I do not in fact miss her.
That's all I have in mind, honestly the game was so good I'm still feeling the excitement and all the emotions it gave me. I can't wait to play it again and see how the next playthrough goes!
Have a nice day, and if you read this far, thank you :D
2023.04.02 10:28 TheKraftyCTO Red light therapy at home advice
 | Some background information: my business involves me being exposed to heavy computescreen time. Started noticing some receding hairline few months ago. Been taking better care of my hair now. I came across this study that suggests red light promotes hair growth and blue light suppress the hair follicles (my computer screens emit blue light but I haven't researched enough to say what wavelength of blue affects hair follicles & what wavelength my monitors emit on an average). submitted by TheKraftyCTO to FemaleHairLoss [link] [comments] Anyways, I have a near infrared heat lamp at home that is used for pain management (power 150 W) (Reference amazon link at the bottom) . I was wondering if it is safe to use it for hair as well. What I am looking for is science backed references / experiences on following points. If the given lamp is not safe then what to use?
P.S. What I tried doing with my monitor using the Windows Night Light setting š¤£ It becomes difficult for eyes to adjust to this shade ā |
2023.04.02 10:28 juliashing101 Story of my life...
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2023.04.02 10:27 First_Light_676 Being sober in a touring band
I'd like to start off by saying my partner is in AA and 8 years sober, so I've talked about this a lot with her but might need some extra thoughts.
I've recently stopped drinking as of just over a month ago but I'm currently in a touring band where the other members drink. We're not at the level yet where we can afford hotel rooms etc, so often it means crashing at people's houses and the sleeping arrangements aren't always ideal. Back home, me and my partner are often in bed by 10pm, so being up til 1/2am when touring is a stretch for me, but I try to push through. I have a diagnosis of fibromyalgia and a medical cannabis prescription, so I'm often on a different wavelength after we play a show. I want to relax and sleep, because I've just used up a lot of energy, but it seems like these guys can just keep going when there's alcohol involved, which is more often than not provided for free by the venue, so it's not like there's any thought in these people's minds to not drink. They can drink on consecutive days and I feel like one of them talks about fitness all the time to distract from the fact that they can't stop drinking (which would actually be one of the healthiest things they can do) I've been a musician nearly all my life and only now being in a band which has some kind of promise/trajectory about 25 years after I started playing, so it's not a simple case of "this lifestyle isn't for me" because if I wasn't in a band, I'm not sure what I'd be doing or where I would be, but I'm really struggling with a mismatch of energy and the lack of sleep combined with the anxiety surrounding potentially more lost sleep is creating challenges for my mental health
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I've recently stopped drinking as of just over a month ago but I'm currently in a touring band where the other members drink. We're not at the level yet where we can afford hotel rooms etc, so often it means crashing at people's houses and the sleeping arrangements aren't always ideal. Back home, me and my partner are often in bed by 10pm, so being up til 1/2am when touring is a stretch for me, but I try to push through. I have a diagnosis of fibromyalgia and a medical cannabis prescription, so I'm often on a different wavelength after we play a show. I want to relax and sleep, because I've just used up a lot of energy, but it seems like these guys can just keep going when there's alcohol involved, which is more often than not provided for free by the venue, so it's not like there's any thought in these people's minds to not drink. They can drink on consecutive days and I feel like one of them talks about fitness all the time to distract from the fact that they can't stop drinking (which would actually be one of the healthiest things they can do) I've been a musician nearly all my life and only now being in a band which has some kind of promise/trajectory about 25 years after I started playing, so it's not a simple case of "this lifestyle isn't for me" because if I wasn't in a band, I'm not sure what I'd be doing or where I would be, but I'm really struggling with a mismatch of energy and the lack of sleep combined with the anxiety surrounding potentially more lost sleep is creating challenges for my mental health
2023.04.02 10:25 im1205 He (20M) slept with another girl the day after he kissed me(18F)
so i (18F) met this guy (20M) on a tuesday at the student centre at our school. i was just chilling with my friend in one of the food places and this guy approached me. i had seen him when we first walked in and thought he was cute but did not pay him much attention. when he came up we had a good conversation. he asked me my name, my program and we was just asking each other about ourselves. we exchanged instagrams and i said bye but i really didnāt expect that iād talk to him seriously or that itād go anywhere. however that night he texted me talking about how it was nice talking to me and he wants to see me again. i was happy but still weary and low of expectationsā¦i was assuming he just wanted to have casual sex which iām not up for (disclaimer: im a virgin).
i had told him we wouldnāt see each other till next week when i had class again but there was this party at a club that we both were going to. we planned that weād see each other there and he came up to me. we talked for a bit but it was very loud so we went downstairs near the bathroom. when we went down he was complimenting me and very affectionate which i liked and was ok with. he then kissed me which i too was ok with and we made out. he started to ask if i wanted to go to the bathroom but i said no because i was not ready to have sex in a club bathroom with someone i barely know. he then later asked me if i wanted to come over to his friends and drink more but i also said no because i know what that could lead to. however when i said no he was very respectful.
i expected that he would not talk to me again as i didnāt go as far as he wanted but that night he texted me that he āloved every minute of tonightā with me. when he said that i was very happy and started to think maybe me he actually wanted me for me and to get to know me and not just sex. we hung out the next monday, tuesday and then on wednesday he asked me out.
i told him i was suprised as i thught he just wanted me to come to his room and he said no that heās not playing and heās āactually trying to give me the bestā. i was so happy amd excited. he wanted to kiss me but i told him no as i wanted us to build a connection first before we start getting into that too fast. he was confused at first but understood and told me that he doesnāt wanna force me to do anything. i did give him a kiss on the cheek and he gave me one back. everything was greatā¦ā¦ā¦
however hours later that same day my friends called me and told me that he slept with another girl the day after the party and she even slept over. he slept with another girl the day after he made out with me. i couldnāt believe it but they even showed me a picture to prove weāre talking abt the same guy and i see that he followed that girl recently the same night of the party.
i cried as i was hurt. i dont kiss people that fast without knowing them but i kissed him. it was consensual and i liked it but i felt shitty knowing since he didnāt get that far with me he quickly went to have sex with another girl the same weekend. i thought he was different and he told me he was ādifferentā. iāve also kissed him after that weekend and i feel shitty knowing he been kissing me while he had sex with someone else on the weekend. i really thought he was serious but several people are telling me that he is not and heās known around school for being that kind of guy that sleeps around.
but iām upset confused and donāt know what to believe. when we hung out he seemed like such a genuine guy whoās focuses on school, works a good job and is really sweet. he even told me about his familyā¦.heās called me twice as i have not replied to his messages and i donāt know what to say or do. i canāt let him know that iām aware he slept with someone that weekend otherwise i risk getting the people who told me in trouble. everyone is saying to ghost him but for some reason i donāt want to. i know he doesnāt owe me loyalty as we werenāt together but this is so embarrassing. but our conversations made me feel like he really cared about me and iām scared if i ghost him iām losing someone good for me over one mistake he made. please help i need advice and feel conflicted?
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i had told him we wouldnāt see each other till next week when i had class again but there was this party at a club that we both were going to. we planned that weād see each other there and he came up to me. we talked for a bit but it was very loud so we went downstairs near the bathroom. when we went down he was complimenting me and very affectionate which i liked and was ok with. he then kissed me which i too was ok with and we made out. he started to ask if i wanted to go to the bathroom but i said no because i was not ready to have sex in a club bathroom with someone i barely know. he then later asked me if i wanted to come over to his friends and drink more but i also said no because i know what that could lead to. however when i said no he was very respectful.
i expected that he would not talk to me again as i didnāt go as far as he wanted but that night he texted me that he āloved every minute of tonightā with me. when he said that i was very happy and started to think maybe me he actually wanted me for me and to get to know me and not just sex. we hung out the next monday, tuesday and then on wednesday he asked me out.
i told him i was suprised as i thught he just wanted me to come to his room and he said no that heās not playing and heās āactually trying to give me the bestā. i was so happy amd excited. he wanted to kiss me but i told him no as i wanted us to build a connection first before we start getting into that too fast. he was confused at first but understood and told me that he doesnāt wanna force me to do anything. i did give him a kiss on the cheek and he gave me one back. everything was greatā¦ā¦ā¦
however hours later that same day my friends called me and told me that he slept with another girl the day after the party and she even slept over. he slept with another girl the day after he made out with me. i couldnāt believe it but they even showed me a picture to prove weāre talking abt the same guy and i see that he followed that girl recently the same night of the party.
i cried as i was hurt. i dont kiss people that fast without knowing them but i kissed him. it was consensual and i liked it but i felt shitty knowing since he didnāt get that far with me he quickly went to have sex with another girl the same weekend. i thought he was different and he told me he was ādifferentā. iāve also kissed him after that weekend and i feel shitty knowing he been kissing me while he had sex with someone else on the weekend. i really thought he was serious but several people are telling me that he is not and heās known around school for being that kind of guy that sleeps around.
but iām upset confused and donāt know what to believe. when we hung out he seemed like such a genuine guy whoās focuses on school, works a good job and is really sweet. he even told me about his familyā¦.heās called me twice as i have not replied to his messages and i donāt know what to say or do. i canāt let him know that iām aware he slept with someone that weekend otherwise i risk getting the people who told me in trouble. everyone is saying to ghost him but for some reason i donāt want to. i know he doesnāt owe me loyalty as we werenāt together but this is so embarrassing. but our conversations made me feel like he really cared about me and iām scared if i ghost him iām losing someone good for me over one mistake he made. please help i need advice and feel conflicted?
2023.04.02 10:24 Traditional-Sink-429 I lose my virginity and everything went downhill after
By the way im only here to vent and maybe find comfort please excuse me for my grammar Iām only 13
Soooo im a 13 year old female and I started talk to this dude weāve known eachother for 2 years and this summer was when we started talking like sexualy by the way we never dated
And so I liked him ever since I met him and like so I was down When I liked him I would have to craziest fantasyās
But anyways while we started talking we talked about meeting up when school started we fell out kinda and I ended up stoped liking him
But I started to miss him and texted him asking why he never tried talking to me and he said cuz he told I didnāt want to talk to him but we would literally make eye contact as soon as we saw eachother in the same room
But then we started talking again and meet up with him on Halloween We went to a place and I gave him headā¦After that we started meeting up more often and give eachother yeaā¦
But then one day he asked if we can do the nasty I kept saying no at first cuz Iām only 13 I wanna wait till at least high school but he kept asking and asking so I made a deal with him that if he got us a c**dom I would let him
I thought it was gonna be a while because itās cdoms weāre both 13 with no job and barely get money And plus I feel like it would be embarrassing to walk into a store and buy cdoms being 13
But he ended up getting them in 2 days and we went somewhere and did it I hated every second of it like it didnāt hurt it just felt uncomfortable
And then after that we never talked again but it happened at the end on November and Iām still crushing on him and heās dated 2 girls and I canāt help but feel jealous because Iāve liked Him for 2 years and Iām still just a second option that he never talks to
I really hope his new gf cheats on him I want him to feel the pain I do I literally cry everyday because of him I just canāt help but feel sh*tty because the guy I put my trust in literally ghosts me after we lost our v-card to each other
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Soooo im a 13 year old female and I started talk to this dude weāve known eachother for 2 years and this summer was when we started talking like sexualy by the way we never dated
And so I liked him ever since I met him and like so I was down When I liked him I would have to craziest fantasyās
But anyways while we started talking we talked about meeting up when school started we fell out kinda and I ended up stoped liking him
But I started to miss him and texted him asking why he never tried talking to me and he said cuz he told I didnāt want to talk to him but we would literally make eye contact as soon as we saw eachother in the same room
But then we started talking again and meet up with him on Halloween We went to a place and I gave him headā¦After that we started meeting up more often and give eachother yeaā¦
But then one day he asked if we can do the nasty I kept saying no at first cuz Iām only 13 I wanna wait till at least high school but he kept asking and asking so I made a deal with him that if he got us a c**dom I would let him
I thought it was gonna be a while because itās cdoms weāre both 13 with no job and barely get money And plus I feel like it would be embarrassing to walk into a store and buy cdoms being 13
But he ended up getting them in 2 days and we went somewhere and did it I hated every second of it like it didnāt hurt it just felt uncomfortable
And then after that we never talked again but it happened at the end on November and Iām still crushing on him and heās dated 2 girls and I canāt help but feel jealous because Iāve liked Him for 2 years and Iām still just a second option that he never talks to
I really hope his new gf cheats on him I want him to feel the pain I do I literally cry everyday because of him I just canāt help but feel sh*tty because the guy I put my trust in literally ghosts me after we lost our v-card to each other