Hi all,
Just to inform you about an apartment rental scam on DBA. When you contact them, they will send you the e-mail below. Why do I know it's a scam, apart from the obvious red flags? Because I got exactly the same e-mail a month ago, only some details (name, profession,..) were changed a bit. They contacted me right after removing their ad from DBA, so I can't report it unfortunately.
The e-mail I got recently. (I removed their name.)
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Hi ,
I saw your email regarding my apartment. I am sorry for my late answer.
I want to rent my apartment to some nice and responsible people and before we go any further I would like to know a little something about you. How many people you intend to live in the apartment and for how long . Do you have a current income, etc. I have to tell you from the beginning, I do not have a problem if you are a student and I am very happy for pets and willing to accept them in the apartment. You should also know that I appreciate sincerity a lot.
Above all, here's a little about the apartment and myself so we can get to know each other better.
My name is XX, I am 43 years old, I am a Chief Engineer from Spain, I work for MWH Constructors . I worked hard to have a good career and I really respect hard earned money. I worked in Denmark for the last 3 years, and the apartment was bought while I worked there, now I rent it because I moved back to Spain. I am the only owner, it is fully paid and it has no legal problems. The apartment is exactly like in the pictures, fully furnished and renovated. Also, very important, the utilities (cold/hot water, electricity, wireless broadband Internet, digital TV, 1 parking spots, dishwasher, garbage disposal, microwave, refrigerator, washing machine, etc.) are INCLUDED in the price . You can use my furniture, or you can also use your own if you prefer. If you decide to use yours, you will have access to a very large and well ventilated cellar, where you can store my furniture . You can rent the apartment for unlimited time, but not less than 3 months . You must know from the beginning that If you rent it for a long time you can register your address here . You can move in the apartment the same day when you receive the keys. The only problem is that I am already in Spain, but I've already found a solution for that.
I appreciate your interest in my apartment and I look forward to future cooperation and friendship.
Sincerely, XX

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Another e-mail for another apartment, a month ago. (Different name than the previous e-mail.)
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Hej,
Jeg så din e-mail angående min lejlighed. Jeg er ked af mit sene svar.
Jeg vil leje min lejlighed til nogle pæne og ansvarlige mennesker, og inden vi går videre, vil jeg gerne vide lidt om dig. Hvor mange mennesker du agter at bo i lejligheden, og hvor længe. Har du en løbende indkomst osv. Jeg er nødt til at fortælle dig det fra starten, jeg har ikke et problem, hvis du er studerende, og jeg er meget glad for kæledyr og villig til at acceptere dem i lejligheden. Du skal også vide, at jeg værdsætter oprigtighed meget.
Frem for alt er her lidt om lejligheden og mig selv, så vi kan lære hinanden bedre at kende.
Mit navn er XX , jeg er 40 år, jeg er en arkitekt fra Spain, jeg arbejder for Sweco . Jeg arbejdede hårdt for at få en god karriere, og jeg respekterer virkelig hårdt tjente penge. Jeg arbejdede i Danmark de sidste 4 år, og lejligheden blev købt, mens jeg arbejdede der, nu leger jeg den, fordi jeg flyttede tilbage til Spain. Jeg er den eneste ejer, det er fuldt betalt, og det har ingen juridiske problemer. Lejligheden er nøjagtig som på billederne, fuldt møbleret og renoveret. Også meget vigtigt, at forsyningsselskaberne (koldt / varmt vand, elektricitet, trådløst bredbånd internet, digital-tv, 1 parkeringspladser, opvaskemaskine, bortskaffelse af affald, mikroovn, køleskab, vaskemaskine osv.) Er inkluderet i prisen. Du kan bruge mine møbler, eller du kan også bruge dine egne, hvis du foretrækker det. Hvis du beslutter at bruge din, har du adgang til en meget stor og godt ventileret kælder, hvor du kan opbevare mine møbler. Du kan leje lejligheden i ubegrænset tid, men ikke mindre end 3 måneder. Du skal vide fra starten, at hvis du vil leje den i lang tid, kan du registrere din adresse her. Du kan flytte i lejligheden samme dag, når du modtager nøglerne. Det eneste problem er, at jeg allerede er i Spain, men jeg har allerede fundet en løsning på det.
Jeg sætter pris på din interesse for min lejlighed og glæder mig til fremtidigt samarbejde og venskab.
Jeg taler ikke Dansk godt, som du kan se, så jeg vil sætte pris på et svar på Engelsk, hvis du kan.
Med venlig hilsen XX

I have a friend in public housing. One of them is in their early 20s and lives in one of the wealthiest parts of the city for what must be 1/6th of the market rent for that area, and can realistically remain there for the rest of their life as long as they pay the rent.
They were lucky in getting this housing, and aren’t really too different economically or socially than many others who would otherwise have to pay 6 times what they pay to stay there.
It irks me somewhat that they can theoretically earn as much as they can and still remain in state subsidised housing. This does strike me as unfair.
I do believe there should be some social housing, especially in relation to those with support needs and sheltered housing. But for everyone else, I’m not sure.
What do you think?

My party (5 lvl 10 players) are after an Arm of the Betrayers that a cult is trying to get their hands on. It's being held within the Exalted Collection Auction House in Port Damali. The owner of the auction house, in my game, is an Arcanaloth, so I'd imagine him having a lot of resources at his disposal to protect his items. Any suggestions for what kind of traps/wards/guardians he'd employ?

Hey everyone!
My partner and I will be moving to New Haven for a new job at the Yale New Haven Hospital in May and are looking for a 2+ bedroom house to rent. We’re not sure where to look besides Zillow and Trulia, and they have either:

1. Been scammers
2. Not been responding to inquiries

If anyone can please help point us in the right direction we’d be very grateful. Thank you!!

SORRY FOR MY ENGLISH I'M FRENCH and it's a long story
i want advice to have a better control of my feeling and some point of view
To be honest, I hope people will be respectful towards me and my girlfriend, because I think a lot of mistakes have been made between us. So, it's been three years since I've been with my girlfriend.
For context, I met her while I was with my ex-girlfriend whom I wasn't really in love with at the time, but had trouble accepting it. We had a disagreement during the summer vacation with my ex and we were on a break.
I met my current girlfriend by chance and we got very close during that time. She had an unofficial boyfriend, but never really saw him. Eventually, my ex-girlfriend came back, and my current girlfriend and I both consider ourselves polyamorous, but I now think that I can no longer be polyamorous because I believe in adapting to society to be stable.
I come from a poor family, so I had to grow up faster and I think I need to start building my future in a stable way, like with a wife, a house, etc. At that time, I was considering trying a polyamorous relationship with my current girlfriend and my ex. Fast forward, things were going really well, but it was making everyone uncomfortable.
At this point in my life, I'm in Africa, in a country I don't know with no bearings, and then a seismic event happens in my life. I lose all my friends from that time, including my roommate and my best friend with whom I shared everything, because of a dispute. This moment traumatized me a lot.
At the time, I weighed 125 kg for 1m93 and had a 6-month depression in Africa, during which I gained weight and reached 160kg. Honestly, Africa is not going well for me and my condition is so horrible that I have to come back to France earlier than expected.
I reconnect with my childhood friends whom I hadn't been able to see for a year and a half. I'm living a good life with my girlfriend. When I go back to school, I know I'm going to Ireland for a year of exchange.
As mentioned at the beginning, I come from a poor family and I chose Ireland because I didn't have to pay any fees or visa, but mostly because I was going to share an apartment with two of my friends and my best friend, which would reduce the costs. But as I said, my friends turned their backs on me at that time, so I find myself alone and I have to go into debt to find housing there.
I don't see anyone because I have one friend who is friends with all the exchange students at the university and I feel uncomfortable and untrusting around him (we talk again now, but we never really addressed this issue and he doesn't want to). My former best friend, whom I knew lived on the street next to mine, cut me off abruptly without giving me a chance to respond, but I didn't want to try to reconnect out of respect for her decision.
So, I didn't leave my house to avoid running into her and I didn't go out at night for fear of ending up in the same place. Mission accomplished, I never ran into her.
This is to explain the emptiness of my social life at that time. Coming back to my girlfriend, I think at that time, I demanded a lot of attention from her. I had just lost everything, and I was afraid of losing her too. Also, I felt empty and on the brink of suicide without her presence. Looking back, I can now say that it was unhealthy. We had to call each other as if we were living together. We would call each other and watch series together, she would do her homework while on the phone with me, and I would eat while on the phone with her. If she didn't call me every day, I would become ill. At one point, she was in the final exam period, so we couldn't call each other. I was upset and angry, and we argued. She apologized and said that it would be better when she's on vacation at the end of the week.
The day before she left, she told me that her parents had just offered her to go skiing for the beginning of the holidays, and that she would be absent for four days. I was furious. She left for four days, and I stayed in bed, crying and sleeping, without eating for four days.
There were several episodes like this, and at that time, I told her that she could see someone else if she wanted to have sex, but she didn't want to. On my part, I had a beginning of a relationship with a girl from my residence. It was at the beginning of our relationship, but I still talked to my girlfriend about it to have permission just in case something happened. She told me clearly that she refused because we had just gone through the polyamorous period with my ex-girlfriend and she didn't feel very comfortable yet. I understood and refused, limiting my relationship with the other girl to a minimum. Honestly, it didn't bother me at all, even though I am older than her and my only sexual relationships with penetration were with her and my ex, and she had a pretty wide sexual life before me, with more than seven men.
So, this year in Ireland was difficult for me. I had gone from Africa to Ireland and didn't leave my house each time. To be honest, Ireland was the hardest because I am poor, and I had never traveled before, and I had spent a lot of money on my school fees to be able to travel for a year abroad. It was literally my only motivation, so it broke me a little.
I came back, and I knew I would spend time with my girlfriend and my friends, but as soon as I arrived, my friends told me that they were all going back to our home country (an equivalent of Hawaii but in France), so I was going to be alone here. And my girlfriend was hesitant to go on an exchange year in LA. I encouraged her to do it because the United States is amazing, and Hollywood would be a great opportunity because she studies cinema. I encouraged her because she thought she wouldn't be accepted, and she didn't care about traveling and didn't particularly like the US. She decided to go to LA for the exchange year.
So, we finally get to the important part of this story. My girlfriend arrived in LA, and I stayed in France, and once again, I am alone (although a little less than in Ireland, and I go out a bit, which is already better, and I'm back to sports because I remind you that I am now at 165 kg). I make frequent appointments with a therapist to feel better, and I have a poorly paid job to finish my studies. I had a difficult year because I had to complete my thesis. Before my girlfriend
left for the USA, our sex life was calm for several reasons: personal problems, she was busy preparing for her trip, and we had little intimacy. So, before her departure, I asked her if she wanted to have sex in the USA because she had the opportunity for two years, but she said it was impossible.
She comes to the USA, stops taking the pill because it's too complicated to get it there, we try to call each other from time to time to watch movies or videos, I stay up late because I take the time difference on my shoulders. After 2 months, she tells me that she doesn't feel good in the USA because she's not doing anything (due to social anxiety and lack of money) and she would really like to sign up for Tinder.
Honestly, I'm a bit surprised because she promised that she wouldn't, but I accept it because it also satisfies my kink of seeing her getting fucked by other guys. But she has few successful dates, and although it doesn't bother me that she slept with one of them, it bothers me that we call each other less often (and that I'm stressed and can't sleep when she's out because I'm worried about her).
But it's okay, she comes back for Christmas (not for me but because she loves celebrating Christmas with her family). During the time she's here, everything goes pretty well, we see each other quite often, everything is perfect, I finally meet her parents, I talk to mine about her, everything is fine. Just one small thing: her former fuck buddy blocks her for no reason, she tells me she doesn't care, but it's a bit annoying. I tell her it's going to be okay, she just has to move on because she shouldn't be obsessing over it. She says it's true. And on the day she leaves for the USA, she tweets in private that she misses him, that he was incredible, that she's destroyed by his departure, etc.
She hid it from me (often it hurts me more when someone hides something from me than the thing itself). I discovered it by chance, and I remind her that she's not ready for this kind of relationship because she has attachment issues, so she should be careful because she'll hurt herself.
Thinking about it, I tell her clearly that it's better if we stop the open relationship because she has problems in this area and can't just have a sex friend like some people do. And I tell her clearly that normally this kind of relationship should be a mutual agreement and it's supposed to stop if it bothers the other person, she tells me that she won't stop.
Knowing that in reality, the question only arises for her and not for me because I'm not looking for a sex friend. An anxious, depressed, not very attractive, and morbidly obese guy doesn't appeal to many people, so I'm at 0. And to be honest, I tell her that normally sex buddies should be less important than her boyfriend and it shouldn't be so difficult to stop it to preserve her boyfriend. She tells me she needs it because otherwise she has no social interaction and she's ready to leave me for that.
It already hurts me a lot, but in the end, I'm a bit obliged to accept it, but whatever. Since then, she's met two guys: Trevor, who lives near her but not in the same city, and they see each other from time to time. Honestly, no problem with him, he doesn't make a big deal out of it and takes her home when they're done (important for me because sleeping with someone is intimate and sacred, and I like to have a debrief).
Bryan seemed okay at first because he had similar interests to me, so I thought it would work out. But I noticed that he tried to change my mind about certain things. Going back in chronological order, I decided to take a vacation to the USA because I missed my girlfriend, and it was a good opportunity. I asked her for help since I wouldn't be able to stay with her due to the rules. We struggled for weeks to figure out if I could come, but it finally worked out. I took all my salary in advance, asked for money from my brother, mother, father, and even grandparents. Finally, I thought, "We can celebrate Valentine's Day together."
The first two days were okay with a few minor problems, but then I woke up one morning before her and saw a message from her to her best friend, who hates me and has been campaigning for her to break up with me for a long time, saying, "I will probably break up with him after he leaves. It disgusts me. I don't know how I'm going to handle it. He stinks. Everyone I love smells good, but he stinks." It was heartbreaking, especially on Valentine's Day, after traveling 1,000 km and using all my money. It was also traumatic because I had issues with sweating a lot as a child due to hormonal problems, so being told that I stink brought back some trauma.
I told her that she could leave if she wanted to because I would never hold someone back from staying with me without love. She said that it had gone beyond her initial thought, and she was lost. She didn't know if she was cut out for a relationship. We decided to stay together, but it wasn't definitive. She needed to think about it. The rest of my stay was a bit of a rollercoaster. I was afraid she would leave me the whole time, but otherwise, things went well.
After I left, we spent a few weeks together, which were very nice. Then, I received news that I was accepted into a program to work in the equivalent of NASA for my field of research. Furthermore, it was in my hometown, so I could go back there for a while. I told my girlfriend, and she was happy. I thought it was great because I would be less on her back since the time difference would increase, and I would be surrounded by my friends. At that moment, she was a bit afraid that we would spend less time together, but she hoped we could still spend a lot of time together. However, I didn't sleep for two days before leaving because I was stressed.
And at one point, we quickly got into a dispute about Bryan because he was too involved in his feelings and she was getting attached. I spoke to her harshly, which she took badly, and she told me she wanted to break up just one hour before my long-haul flight.
I begged her to give me a chance and at least talk about it. She agreed, and I told her that we would assume we were giving it a chance by discussing it and that we were still together. It was super important that she couldn't see anyone else until I was back and we had talked because our rule was never to sleep with anyone else while we were in a fight. It was one of the longest flights of my life.
I landed, went through my affairs, and came home. Eventually, my girlfriend didn't want to talk on the phone anymore. She was confused, and I started to stress, thinking that she went to see her hookup Bryan. However, she told me she smoked and was feeling a bit of a bad trip. I worried, but she said she was leaving her phone with a friend and wouldn't answer anymore. I felt somewhat reassured and thought it wasn't so bad, even though she wasn't supposed to smoke for her health.
On my birthday, she forgot it was my special day and went to see Bryan to watch a movie. I reminded her it was my birthday, and she hesitated but said she needed to prioritize her needs before me and my birthday. I told her it made me sad, and she lost her temper, saying she didn't care about me or my birthday. I gave up and left. She eventually told me she was sorry and wouldn't go if I didn't let her. I told her she could go, but the damage was done. However, things got a little better. In the middle of the evening, I asked her when she was coming back so we could discuss our issues. She said she wasn't coming back and was sleeping there. She told me this at the last minute without saying it before because I wouldn't have accepted it if that was the condition. I begged her to come back, but she refused.
We had little chance to talk and went from breaking up to a temporary break to just getting back together due to our disputes. She admitted she had thought about it and really loved me, and it had always been sincere, but she wanted to enjoy her remaining time in the USA with Bryan. She also told me that the night she smoked, it was false. She was with Bryan and not with a friend, and she had lied to me to enjoy herself. She told me to let her enjoy her relationship and that he had asked her to be his girlfriend, but she refused.
So currently, I'm alone. My girlfriend prefers to see a guy she supposedly doesn't like more than me and can't see him without sleeping with him. She prefers to do things with him rather than with me, and he has had inappropriate behavior.
In short, I feel pathetic partly because I'm the boyfriend who is his girlfriend's doormat, justifying her behavior by saying she loves me but wants to focus on her own desires. However, her desire to focus on herself isn't about her friends, her sports, or her studies, which were the real problems, but rather living in a "hoe era" with a guy who is horrible according to me.
I want to know to find a way to be more okay with my girlfriend need ?

I (19M at the time) while I was living in another province got a deal with my mom and my grandma to move into my grandmas for the summer to look for a job to find an apartment to live in with my mom.
My mom told me the cost of rent and I calculated I could afford that cost doing part time so I said yes. I moved in to grandmas and I find out afterwards the rent is twice the amount she said on the phone.
I have autism and borderline personality disorder so I can’t work full time. I can barely even work part time. (She knew about the autism but didn’t know about the BPD because I wasn’t diagnosed with it yet)
After I realized I couldn’t afford the rent without doing full time I talked to my mom about it and she said “she didn’t know prices got higher since she last checked.” I got super depressed and stayed in my room most of the time after that. I didn’t even look for jobs at all mostly just played games. This situation sparked a lot of arguments about silly things between me and mom. My grandma got into daily drunken rants at night shouting things like “There’s an asshole living in my house!!!” from downstairs.
After all of that I moved back to where I was before and was qualified for Persons With Disabilities (financial assistance) and haven’t really talked to them much since.

Hi all.. I have a situation at the moment and it’s really starting to grind my gears.
I live in a home that has an attached granny flat.. both have our own driveways (important) however the house side (mine) has a double car port. The tenant in the flat continues to park her car in my carport and always tries to fight me on it saying she can park there..
In previous listings of the house it says it includes the carport (no sharing)
I private rent, they are through real estate. Am I allowed to call the real estate and request that she stop? She seems to think it’s in her lease.. I HIGHLY doubt it, she’s a right piece of work honestly. She has her own driveway and path to her door yet parks directly infront of my bedroom window and front door. She also shines her headlights in late at night for extended periods of time.
So yeah anyways, can I call and ask if she can do that? And can I ask them to tell her to stop?

Age 27, salary 70k ish (partial commission) and will likely grow over the next few years.
Debt 0, emergency fund 7k, tfsa 1500. Currently saving between 1200 and 1500 per month.
I know this question has been addressed in articles, but I wanted to get some perspective from those further along. My current living situation is a house rental with fiance and 2 close friends. My total housing expenses including rent, utilities, internet are under $600 per month.
I share a vehicle with fiance as I work remotely in a city and don't need my own.
I'm wondering I should be planning for buying a house or if I should try and continue with this low cost living situation as long as possible?
I'd be needing 5% down on a 200-250k house where I live and this would be very doable in the next 1-2 years with my low expenses and the upcoming FHSA.
On paper my expenses would absolutely go up, but it does also feel like a good time to buy. Higher interest rates mean lower principal, and I can always refinance after 5 years to remove the mortgage insurance and (likely) lower the interest rate.
Even in a "low" cost of living area like I'm in, rental rates are getting absurd and I don't believe my current situation is one I'll be able to stay in for the next 10 years.

I finally got a job after 3 weeks of searching and waiting for call backs. A number of bills have piled up and I was supposed to pay my electric awhile ago but was putting it off before I left my last job. Now it's caught up to me. I work Tuesday - Saturday from 1:30pm till midnight and off on Sundays and Mondays if anyone needs a favor or any help of any kind and willing to pay me same day I will be there. I need to make $250 before next week. If I need to I will wake up before the sunrises to come help you on any day or help you between Saturday night - Tuesday morning before I go to work. Doesn't matter how strenuous the work is I'm willing to do it. My lights are getting turned off tomorrow. I only have the money for my rent after that I don't get paid till next week. I can't have my son staying in a house with no electricity.
I'm a 28 year old 6'4" 236 pound black male
I will come with my driver's license for identification I am a military veteran (Army 92A last unit was 108th ADA in Fort Bragg)
Steel toe boots if needed Heavy Coat if needed I'm very good at following instructions I'm very good at writing, articulating, creating, lifting, endurance activities, public speaking, cleaning, listening and many more things.
I am completely non-judgmental in anyway. I'm humble trustworthy and quiet. I'm willing to sacrifice personal issues to get the job done.
I WILL NOT SUE FOR INJURY!
I MIND MY BUSINESS!
I AM UNARMED!
Any amount of money will do if not the $250!
I will arrive sober and ready to work.
I don't judge the morality of the work given.
If interested or have any more questions please PM me.

This is really hard for me.
I have insomnia for 8 years since I was in college. Because of that, I can't sleep at night or have a at least normal 8 hour sleep unless I tire myself out for 2 or 3 days. Even if try to sleep everyday, I can only sleep 2 hours at most and I'll just automatically wake up again. It gives me headaches to sleep such short time just to wake up abruptly. Since it's been so long, I've learnt to just live with it.
Here's some background. I've been travelling and working as a guide until 2020. It was fun until I had to quit because of covid. For the past 2 1/2 years, I've been working as a freelancer and a small business here and there to feed myself. But, everyone knows that I can't last long with the small income and the increasingly economic issues. Rent and groceries became expensive and I can barely have a decent meal everyday. Not to mention the bills.
I decided to look for jobs with better opportunities and salary. I hate it at first because I'm quite big and normal office job gave caused me to have slip disk due to the long period of sitting in front of the laptop. But it's making me pity myself that I don't go out of the house to shop and bought everything from the dollar store.
After months of applying everywhere, I finally got accepted to one of the company thanks to my friend's recommendation. The salary is decent and as I heard the work is not demanding. 2 days off and a normal office working hours. I'm very thankful.
However, here's the problem. Due to my insomnia, I can't function properly after 2 or 3 days and this work needs to use more brain than physical work. I've always known that normal working hours doesn't fit me but beggars can't be choosers.
Sorry for the long rant but I really need help on how to keep my insomnia at bay for me to do my job decently and also have at least one healthy routine/diet to help me go through this. The work is from 10am to 7pm which I think is great! It'll be hard for me but I'm willing to put in the effort to help myself at least get a little better.
Please help me, dear reddit readers.

I am 19. I suffer from a laundry list of mental illness. You name it, I probably have it. Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety, ADHD, PTSD, severe depression, suicidal thoughts, the list goes on. I've had these things for a long time, but since the pandemic and since I began college, they've gotten a lot worse. I had to take a year off from school and I have spent months in my room.
I live with my mother. One of the conditions is that I pay rent. So I do. But to her, paying on time isn't enough. She says the conditions of staying in her house were that I'd go to school, work towards adulthood and all that. The last year I haven't been doing that. I've been severely depressed. I don't get out of bed most days. She is a psychologist, and she knows what's going on, so she has given me some grace. I've been thankful for that, but I know I've also gotten defensive when she brings up more stressful things like money. I pay rent on time. I take odd jobs and make money. That part of our deal has stayed intact, so I don't want to talk about it with her. When she brings it up, I shut her down. I already stress myself out about it, I don't need her stressing me out to.
It kind of reached a boiling point, I guess. She says I'm not doing enough, I'm being mean to her unintentionally, and I hate her finacee. (That part is true. I do hate her fiancee.) Anyway, we were talking about a lot of different things, a conversation she didn't give me notice for or give me time to emotionally prepare for, and I guess I kind of just snapped.
I told her I don't trust her, and that I haven't for a while. Most of my life it was just me and my mom, so we were pretty close when I was a kid, but I spent most of my childhood alone. She was a good mom when she was there, but I mostly raised myself. And when I was at my dad's, he beat me. Badly. I didn't tell her until it had been going on for years, but as I get older, I truly find myself wondering if she really didn't know.
My therapist suggested at one point that we spend a night together once a week just to make sure we had time for each other. So we did. For a few months. And then, pretty much without warning, she stopped. She said I talked too much. It was a monologue and not a conversation. I had told her before that she should cut me off if I got annoying, and she never did. But then one night, out of nowhere, she told me I talked too much. So I stopped talking. And then she decided I complained too much about her fiancee while we were out, so she stopped wanting to go out with me at all.
So I told her that was why I didn't talk to her anymore. And I really don't. But I don't really talk to anyone. Like I said, I've spent the last six months almost entirely in my room.
More recently, we were supposed to have one night together that was just for us. We'd bought tickets to a show before the pandemic started, and it was finally coming around again. I was excited to finally spend time with her after I hadn't really done so in months. It was just going to be us and I figured, hey I might not talk very much because it annoys her, but at least we'll have a good night like old times before the pandemic started.
She invited her fiancee.
I was distraught. I had to call my grandmother and ask her to go do something with me for a couple hours because I honestly couldn't handle the fact that my mother couldn't save this one night for us. This one night that had been planned before her and her finacee had even met.
I told her all of that tonight, and she seemed upset. But I also told her she played a role in worsening my depression because she did.
When the pandemic started, I got really really depressed. And since leaving the house wasn't really an option during lockdown, I spent most of my time on the couch. It was a cheap couch. But after a couple months of continuously sitting on it, it started to sag. We had to buy a new one. My mom told me straight to my face that it was my fault that it broke and that it was my fault we were taking the financial hit of having to get a new couch. And maybe it was true, but dude I was 17, severely depressed and in the middle of a global pandemic. I don't know what else you wanted me to do.
From that moment on, I started spending all my time in my room. At first I'd come downstairs for meals, and I'd leave for classes when I was allowed to go back to campus, and occasionally I'd hang out with friends when COVID started slowing down. But then the depression got worse. Spending so much time in my room, I didn't socialize very much. So I let myself get worse. And then I stopped going to classes. Stopped seeing my friends. Stopped coming out to eat. A year ago, I stopped taking my medication, and six months ago, I stopped coming out of my room at all.
I can't blame her for my actions. I can't blame her for the fact that I let myself get worse or that I went of my meds. But I can, and I do, blame her for putting the idea of staying in my room in my head. I was so upset about that damn couch that I wouldn't let myself ruin another one. My room was safer. And that I do blame her for.
She was obviously upset about all of that when I told her. She took responsibility for some of her actions, not all of them. And then she asked me where I saw myself in 5 years.
That's when I had to tell her the hardest part.
I don't know. Truly I do not know. For so long, I was genuinely convinced that I would not make it to adulthood that I now have no idea what to do with my life. The exact conversation was something like
"where do you see yourself in five years?"
"I don't know. I didn't think I'd make it this far. I thought my dad would kill me or I'd kill myself."
I don't think she truly knows how bad it was with my father, which is fair because she never saw it. She cried and told me she was glad I was still here. I said I wasn't because now I don't know what to do. I haven't really seen my mother cry much in my life. She cried when I said that.
She asked me why I hadn't asked her for help. I asked her why I would ask for help when I don't trust her. I asked why I should want to tell her anything when all of this was proof that I can't. She told me that if she says or does something that hurts me, I have to tell her. I will tell you the same thing I told her:
Why do I have to be responsible for you not hurting me?
And she had to sit with it for a second. I love my mother. I really love my mother. I owe her a lot. But I have kept all of this to myself for so long, and I couldn't do it anymore. I could not keep pretending like she'd done nothing wrong just because she is the lesser of two evils between my parents.
I feel bad, but every time she says something about how I'm not trying hard enough, I just want to scream at her, so today I finally laid it all out.
But that's all, I guess. I just needed to get it off my chest, and I didn't want to burden my friends with it.

Animal control and police are supposed to get to my house within 25-30 minutes since I live pretty rural.
Hopefully the owners realize that they are paying for the expense and being lucky it didn’t go into my other door that would require a hotel room for months and easily 100k for a shitbull running 2.5 miles

So I’ve been seeing this girl for just over 3 months and everything has been perfect. We have a ton in common we get along so easily, sex is great etc We are really physically affectionate, we kiss, and cuddle all night. We say really sweet stuff to eachother, it’s been amazing. However sometimes I have been pushing her out of he comfort zone. By this I mean I said I couldn’t see her if she was still dating other guys so we became exclusive and then a month or so later I said I want her to meet my friends / be official etc She has mentioned that this stuff scares her and we have had a few arguments about it or just discussions.
Anyway last weekend we are in her car and she is getting maps up on her phone and I see she still has tinder and hinge on her phone so I make a comment and we argue. She hasn’t been actually using them but still. She has since agreed it was a bit muggy but said they make her feel like she is clinging on to her independence, and it’s not actually about using the apps at all. She has said that she loses herself in relationships and she is not sure she is ready for that.
Anyway she ended it, said she couldn’t keep hurting me by not reciprocating what I needed and couldn’t handle the pressure I was putting on her. Fair enough, my fault.
She texted me this morning to say about dropping my stuff off and asked how I was. I said miserable etc and she said she was too, Anyway we got talking and she ended up saying how she needs therapy to work through why she can’t commit. She said that she has never liked the thought of committing even with her past long term boyfriends and ended up resenting them for it because it was they wanted and not her. She said she can’t go through another break up and that’s why she is scared. She said her last breakup almost killed her and the only thing they had together was a rented house. She had to watch her mother go through a divorce and once kids are involved etc she doesn’t want to go through that and hurt the whole family or feel trapped in a loveless marriage. She would rather be alone forever than face any of these prospects.
She wants to get therapy and hopefully fix why she doesn’t want to commit to anyone. She always thought it had to do with the other person and their faults but that I am the most perfect man and she feels so much for me that now she has realised it is a problem that is going to affect her future because she cannot being herself to commit to me, she is too scared.
We are both devastated. I am the type of person that could not hold myself to this level of self improvement and would just drop it all and be with the person I want to be with but she is determined to do what’s best for both of us. She said she thought about continuing to see me during therapy but she has no idea what is going to come from it and she needs no distractions to fix the chaos in her head. I know she has some childhood trauma. She said it wouldn’t be nice for me to know she is going to therapy so she can commit to me and that she fears the therapy might become more about mine and her relationship instead of about her herself.
I told her to call me after she sorts herself out and if she still thinks of me/ has feelings and she has said she would. A very small part of me feels like she is playing with me but i believe that to be my own insecurity, I told her these concerns and even mentioned ‘it would be easier if you just weren’t that into me’ to which a he replied ‘I’m sorry if the truth hurts but I don’t want to lie to you’. The whole time we were together she was very transparent with good and bad things, so I do believe her mostly.
I obviously have to move on but my question is does this seem like she actually likes me as much as she says. Should I just forget about her?
I really felt something real and pure with this girl, I’m crushed and I don’t know what to think. I do trust her but this whole concept of ‘I have to fix myself first’ and not being with someone you are desperate to be with because you ‘cant’ is just so alien to me. But I am trying to be as understanding as possible. Has anyone else been through something similar? How did it work out?

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I (26M) have been renting this flat where i've lived for the past 4 years. The flat is a part of a big house where the landlord(78 M) also lives. They live above me but there is another flat right next to mine that is also being rented. A man moved in there last summer. This particular man (35-40 yo) hooked up with some woman and he started bringing her around. Keep in mind i share a wall with them
Such wall, that you can hear indistinct chat, laughing and coughing with minimal focus on those sounds, even TV noises, i am also sure they can hear me laughing and coughing and chatting with my friends over discord or when i have them over.
The problem is that this woman is so LOUD when they have sex. I mean really loud. Borderline pig slaughter noises. Ok.
Right of the bat i considered it unpleasant, but i always thought like "what if I annoy other people with my gaming(sometimes i shout) and discord talking". I used to tell my friends about it and they all found it funny and didn't believe how loud it actually was. Going on for about 8 months, regularly EVERY SUNDAY, and occasionally during the week aswell.
I am at the point where i don't want to listen to screams and moaning 2 times a week, even through my headphones mid round of VALORANT gunfights i could hear her screams. I am having dinner with sex noises in the background. It slowly broke me down so i came here to ask:
Would i be in the wrong for imitating their noises, screaming, blasting porn on speakers next time i hear them go?(I want him to insta lose boner and make them feel as uncomfortable as possible) I can't handle it any more, and the idea of talking to the landlord(78 M) or even them about it is so SILLY/STUPID to me. They know i exist, they know i'm home, and they still go all in twice a week even with me playing some "a bit louder music" to let them know i'm home and i can hear them.
I just need advice on how to handle this, i know i should have acted way earlier but hey... now i'm here. Thanks for any advice, hope you all have a wonderful day.

Can a private vehicle have two named owners? For example a husband and wife.
The form for a "demande en obtention d'un certificat d'immatriculation" only has space for one owner. But is there any exception to this?

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I just returned from 16 days in Japan and spent a couple of days skiing in Yuzawa, from Tokyo. I will do a full write up of the rest of the trip too but thought I would focus on skiing in Yuzawa (Niigata) first, as I couldn’t find a whole lot about doing it on a budget while I was researching.
We wanted to do a couple of days of skiing as part of a longer trip without blowing our whole budget on it, and we didn’t want to fly up to Hokkaido just for a couple of days - so we checked out Yuzawa and were pleasantly surprised by the good value and fantastic views. We went in the first week of March, and snow was plentiful (and all the resorts were open). It may not be the world class snow of Hokkaido, but as someone who hasn’t skiied for many years and is not much of a snow connoisseur, it seemed excellent to me, as well as being very accessible for tourists, and navigable for non-Japanese speakers.
We brought zero skiing equipment with us (not even a coat) and were able to hire everything very quickly and easily. I have skied before but my partner had not, so we also splashed out on a private 2-hour skiing lesson. The lesson was in English and was extremely good value - highly recommended if you are new to skiing or returning to it after a break.

Costs

2 nights in traditional Japanese guest house, total: 22,500 JPY (170.50 USD) 2 days equipment hire (including winter clothes), total: 16,000 JPY (121.60 USD) 2 days lift passes (Ishiuchi & Yuzawa Kogen), 4 passes in total: around 15,000 JPY (114.00 USD)
2-hour private ski lesson: 16,000 JPY (121.60 USD) 2 return train tickets to Tokyo: 28,000 JPY (212.80 USD) (not needed if you have JR pass)
This brings the cost per person to around 26,750 JPY (203.30 USD), closer to 50,000 JPY (380.00 USD) if paying for train tickets and private ski lesson.
It is also easily be doable as a day trip from Tokyo. I think you could do it including gear rental for around $100 if you wanted to. If you move quickly, you can be on the slopes within about 2 hours of your train departing Tokyo.

Day 1: Tokyo to the slopes!

Caught the Joetsu Shinkansen from Tokyo station, directly to Echigo Yuzawa. Departed around 8.15am, taking 1 hour 20 minutes. The landscape is not mountainous right until this last few minutes - it takes you by surprise!
There is a 7-11 in the station, so we bought a lot of breakfast and lunch supplies here.
Walked to accommodation I had booked in Yuzawa, which was a basic Japanese-style guest house. It was much cheaper than ryokans seem to be, and it provided a tatami mat, futon, and yukata experience. Otherwise it was quite basic, with shared facilities and an onsen. They were happy to look after our baggage until check in time.
The accommodation had a rental shop within the building. There are lots of rental shops all over the town with broadly similar prices. Advanced booking doesn’t seem to be required (at least on a weekday). We had all our gear sorted within 20 minutes. All the staff were very helpful and worked with us to overcome the language barrier!
Our accommodation offered to drop us off at our chosen resort - we went for Ishiuchi Maruyama, as we had heard good things about it. More info on resorts below.
From what we could tell, most accommodation seemed to provide transport to any resort in the Yuzawa region, and there were also regular shuttle buses going between several of the main resorts including GALA Yuzawa, Yuzawa Kogen (which is directly accessible from Yuzawa town), and Ishiuchi (and probably others).
We emailed a few days in advance to book a private lesson in English with Snow Country Instructors, who work across several resorts in the region and would meet us wherever we wanted.
After our lesson we ate lunch and had a beer at one of Ishiuchi’s many slopeside restaurants, which was very cheap and filling, and then spending the rest of the afternoon exploring the resort.
We telephoned our accommodation when we were ready to leave and they picked us up from the car park. Lots of vans of skiiers were driving away at the end of the day and we could have jumped in with others if we had needed to. Everyone was very helpful and friendly.
We ate dinner in Yuzawa town. Restaurants seemed to be quite booked up, despite it being a weekday, so I’d advise advance booking for food if you’re in a group, or if you are picky. There are a few grocery stores and takeaways too.

Day 2 - Skiing Yuzawa Kogen

We elected for Yuzawa Kogen on our second day because it was right across the road from our accommodation, and we wanted a small resort so we could stick to beginner slopes and practice away from the crowds.
We used the onsen in our accommodation, and went to a Thai restaurant in Yuzawa.

Day 3: Depart

Shinkansen back to Tokyo and then on to Kyoto in time for lunch. We could have done a morning of skiing but elected to head off.

Resorts

While we didn’t go to GALA Yuzawa, it’s the most popular resort with tourists in the region, with a Shinkansen station at the resort itself. We decided to go to other resorts ourselves, but if convenience is your priority then GALA might be a good choice.
I would highly recommend Ishiuchi Maruyama for confident beginners and intermediates, and also for snowboarders (the snow park looked great). It has excellent views and great choice of cheap restaurants, and a distinctly Japanese feel. A big meal for two and beers with a view over the valley came to around 3000 JPY. Mmmmmm!
Yuzawa Kogen was a very small resort, and had fewer facilities than Ishiuchi, however the view from the long beginner’s “panorama” course was one of the best I’ve ever seen skiing, and the slopes were incredibly quiet and peaceful. With our lift ticket (a bargain at 3300 Y) we could get the gondola back to Yuzawa town for lunch, with a wide choice of restaurants, and return to the slopes for the afternoon.
For beginners or out-of-practice skiiers looking for a budget alternative to a GALA Yuzawa day trip from Tokyo, I would recommend Yuzawa Kogen. It is about a 10-minute walk from Echigo Yuzawa station, there are loads of cheap rental shops at the base of the resort itself, the lift ticket is cheap, and the beginner slopes are very accessible.
We didn’t buy it, but you can also get a “three mountains pass” which is a lift ticket to all three of Ishiuchi Maruyama, Yuzawa Kogen, and GALA Yuzawa. You could also upgrade a lift ticket from any one of those resorts into a three mountain pass just by paying a few extra yen at any of the ticket counters. So we had the option open but didn’t use it in the end.
PowderHounds has useful info about the various resorts, opening dates, snow quality, etc.
Overall I would highly recommend the Yuzawa area for a day trip or short break from Tokyo. We chatted to many other travellers during our trip and many were very surprised to find out that skiing is so easily accessible (and a few subsequently added it to their itinerary.)
Final note - make sure your travel insurance covers winter sports activities. Happy skiing!

Quick eta: PLEASE don’t share this post on socials. Let’s just keep it to Reddit pleeease.
I can’t say this to our friends and family because they’ve all rallied around me so tremendously and every single one of them says the same thing about not giving up hope, they know he can make it out of this, I just have to believe. I am so indebted to all of them so I just have to fake it.
I hoped and believed for the first four days, but now his body is just in too much shock to heal. I sit at his bedside holding his hand every day as much as I can in between new interventions and procedures and wound-vac changes etc. and I see how hard he is fighting to stay alive, and I see how his body just can’t keep up with his will to live anymore. He is on like 6 different machines and 10/15 medications that are constantly being monitored and bags changed, he’s going through so much blood products, and all of his vitals are being “maintained” by multiple medications. He has not been stable this entire time, and he’s been there since Wednesday.. I’m just a realistic person and a planner and that’s how I cope with trauma. When I’m not crying at his bedside or after bad news I am just so numb.
He is so incredibly loved and well known in our town, there have easily been 25 people in the ICU waiting room at times every single day. There are multiple restaurant owners donating food for us and the nurses or fundraising for our family.
We have two young children, just bought a house, we were about to buy a Subaru. Our life was fucking perfect. We have been in love for 8 years, but tomorrow is our first wedding anniversary… and it’s the 48hr deadline the dr gave him to have shown improvements or we talk about letting him go. He is only getting sicker..
am I in a fucking greys anatomy episode? Is there any possible way I could actually be dreaming? Does anyone know how to help me sell my soul so that we can keep him here?
For a little more detailed medical context he has necrotic pancreatitis, he is septic, has multiple organ failure, intubated and on dialysis. He had abdominal compartment syndrome so they had to cut his belly open to relieve the pressure and it has to stay open to keep draining fluid. The wound is like 6 fucking inches in down AND across his belly.